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DATE: February 18, I was away for a few days and am digging out from the s that piled up! I need to confess something: If even a few days go by without me replying to you, I start to worry. Am I making you feel bad? Am I being rude? And the most fifth grade fear of all: will you be mad at me? I find myself apologizing constantly.
One day, drowning in electronic apologies, it hit me: I have the curse of the e-Good Girl.
When I stop and think about it, I realize that letting four or five days go by before responding to you is actually not a big deal. With all the instant technology at our disposal text! The pressure for an immediate response has gotten out of hand. And my productivity suffers. It offers a satisfying double hit of blazing through my to-do list and fulfilling my need to be nice and please you.
In a highly scientific survey, I asked one of my best friends, who works in publishing, if she ever felt like this. Maybe my friend and I are just Exhibit A of the research on gender and communication: women tend to communicate more socially, while men tend to adopt a more task-oriented read: short, sweet, guilt-free, unapologetic and to the point style.
Fact is, what we do in real life migrates online, Curses of Good Girls included. A New York Times article explored gender differences in e-mail. It cited the research of Dr. Susan C. By contrast, women tend to use mitigated assertions along with questions, offers, suggestions and polite expressions. Or, Even if the building is on fire, I will so write you back. This same article quotes a Rensselaer Polytechnic professor who confesses she is unable to answer s concisely, even when a one-word answer is expected. If I know someone, I will answer even longer.
Joking aside, I want to know: is it just me and my friend, or do you also feel the pressure to prioritize to others over your own professional obligations? Maybe if we all talk about it, we can agree to give each other some more berth in response times and a pass on the guilt. I want to stop apologizing for the delay.
Since, as Dr. Oh, wait, scratch that.Im real women reply only
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